Are you Ready to Give 100% of Yourself?
Have you ever been sick? I mean so sick that you felt that whatever nutrients and energy you had before were gone; completely depleted? Have you done a workout or any type of work that had you laid out in your bed and sleep for 12 hours straight? Well, that is what it takes every day of every week every year of marriage: Depletion. You must give ALL of yourself. That means giving your emotional and physical energy, your body, your time, and your spirit.
To be honest, I didn’t understand this and I am just beginning to comprehend this concept of giving my ALL to my husband. Call me silly, but thought marriage was 50/50. I give a little, he gives a little. I didn’t think about me giving him 100% of me and him giving 100% of himself. That’s backbreaking. For all of these reasons, take who you choose to marry seriously because you are wholly investing in them, not yourself.
What do I mean by giving 100%?
Emotional and physical energy
Crying with them and for them. Being there in the good and bad times, whether you feel like it or not. And believe me, you won’t! Being there if they are sick, ill, depressed whether they deserve it or not! They probably don’t but then again neither do you!
Body
Having sex when you're happy, sad, mad, or full of joy. And you will feel all of these and will want to shut down, believe me. Physically embrace each other every day. Even if it’s forced, it’s good for the kids to see, but it will eventually become natural or soften your hearts. Four hugs will keep the divorce away! Keep your body right. Don’t allow your relationship to end and then you start eating healthy and getting in shape for someone else. Appreciate the compliments about your body from your spouse, even if you don't believe it. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder!
Time
Prioritize your spouse overwork, family, yourself, and even kids. Only God comes first because it would be impossible to love someone unconditional and more than yourself without God and every piece of the universes help!!! This does not mean you don’t go to work or be with your friends and family because of your spouse it crazy and possessive. This is based on mutual love and respect for one another and two sane people’s participation. Let’s not go bananas now!
Give time throughout the day according to your spouse's needs. Examples: Talking, texting, face timing, or meeting up for a meal. Some may like to kiss or hug in passing. It also means saving time to talk before bed and just cuddle. For others, it can mean sharing funny jokes or videos or quotes from a book.
Spiritually
Praying for them, parting from them with good wishes. Tell them to have a great day. Speaking of their lives. (even when you see none of what you want). Having an open heart for them and hurting when they hurt, especially if you are the cause of the hurt.
TAKEAWAYS
What I am saying is that don't come into a marriage with an idea of being completed. The fact is that you are broken and whoever you marry will be or is broken. Mend those two pieces together with unconditional love for one another. With each of you giving 100%, no one loses!!!
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